5 Dating Questions--Part #2

How does he/she view themselves in society? What role does he/she play? I believe this question is quite important. I would most likely ask this question on a first date and think about his/her answer after the date. What you should gather from the answer should be, can I live with a person who thinks this way? How do our outlooks differ? You should also ask yourself this same question so you can see how compatible you and this potential future mate can be. You can tell from this question if someone is an optimist or a pessimist whether this person plays the victim or is a leader. You know what you're looking for in a mate. If his or her answer is not promising you should probably not go on another date with this person.

5 Questions Women Should Ask:Part #1

Let me preface this by saying that you do not have to be religious to ask this question.

Okay so you're sitting at a restaurant or sitting on his couch munching popcorn together when you would just bust out these questions. There is no need to play interrogator you do not want him to believe that the answer to these questions will be the end all be all. So you're first possible question would be, what do you think about religion and God? Do you believe God exist? What role does religion play in your life? You see the reason I would ask these questions of a man is because his answers will reveal much about his imagination, and the way in which he sees his dating world, for example if a man says he does not believe in God because there is no concrete evidence of his existence that is the way he more than likely will view any relationship that he is in. More importantly that is probably the way he views your relationship. He sees things in black and white and if you and him do ever argue about just about anything he more than likely will not see things your way but his way and his way only. If you are looking for a guy who likes his arguments cut and dry this answer would be good for you but if you like to debate this guy will most likely get on your nerves pretty quickly.

So suppose his answer is that he is not religious but he is spiritual and that he does believe there is something up there because of all these unexplainable things that has happened in his life. This answer shows that this guy just might be level-headed and practical when it comes to relationships but when it comes to settling down these guys would have to find the right woman at his leisure meaning that he may be a little hard to gauge in whether are not you two are and item or not.

What I want you to do as a dater is listen to words carefully and how things are said, some people say actions speak louder than words but if you're not listening to what your man is truly saying you'll be missing one half of the equation. There is so much to explain in this article and I'm sure that my advice will be more clear by the end of our week focusing on this matter.

5 Questions Women Need to Ask a Man Before Getting Serious

Beginning tomorrow I will be doing a 5 day lesson on what to look for when finding love. Although these questions are targeted to women, I believe that men can use these to also weed out the bad apples in their dating pool.

The goal in asking these questions is to figure out is this man right for me or rather is this man looking for what I want/need in a relationship? His answers doesn't necessarily have to fit your own beliefs but the way in which he theorizes will reveal how his mind works when it comes to tackling relationships and the problems that might arise once you are seriously dating.

By asking these questions you are also trying to figure out if this is a person who share your your outlook on life whether it be an optimist vs. a pessimist or you can find out pertinent information on whether this guy is truly looking for love. Will he share the same goals as you? Will you and your partner fight the same way in an argument, the list goes on. These questions should not be used as an interrogation like scenario but as an efficient way to secretly find out how you're partner thinks.

"Heart transplant man dies like suicide donor"

In the article it has stated that there are at least 70 documented cases "of transplant patients taking on some of the personality traits of the organ donors". It's a cool article to read and it makes you wonder what other weird and mystical things can happen in real life that we see in movies.

She's Just Not That Into!!!

It not easy being a man especially a shy man in our society and when it comes to figuring out women it only gets harder. I am writing this because I know there are many guys out there who are chasing after women who are just not into them but these guys still persist. Figuring out if a woman likes you is as easy as flipping the lights on in a room (I know bad analogy).

Here are some signs:

• She initiates conversation with you and she actually ask you questions about yourself and she willingly offers information about herself including phone #, email address, myspace and facebook profile, her mom's number in case you can't reach her, work number and the list goes on--get the drift.

• She laughs at your jokes in the silly girl voice even if she's 35.

• She may ask you out for coffee or to hang out with her pals for after work cocktails.

• She touches you, this is important because women only touch guys they like then they give you that come hither look.

• But most importantly what I want guys to know is that if a woman likes you and wants to date you she will not put up a fight. She will answer your text messages and phone calls. Do not play the chasing game, if she sounds iffy about the date you ask her on--take it as a message that she is just not that into you!

Guys please stop being fools, I essentially wanted to write about this because as a woman I've met plenty of relentless guys. They just wouldn't get the message. I wouldn't answer their calls, I would come up with dumb excuses as to why and they'd actually believe it. It's hard for a woman to reject a guy openly so please guys take the hint. If she's not returning your calls and not bending over backwards to be with you, please move on!

Guys if you have any further questions about this topic please email me and women too!

Love,

--CP

Since Valentines is around the corner everyday this week I'll be talking about the "L" word. Here is my first article.Enjoy!!! Tomorrow's for the guys.

When a guy has a crush on you, he:

• asks for a mode of communication in order to contact you especially your phone number but myspace, email and fax is just as important too.

• initiates conversation on just about anything or nothing. The reason being he just wants to be noticed and also wants to show off his "intelligence".

• tries to make you smile by telling jokes.
  

• Talks to you about his personal life and asks you for advice (not advice about other girls by the way).
  

• is eager for your approval , he may ask you about his appearance or about a moral dilemna.

• shares his favorite things with you i.e. music, food or t.v. show.

• introduces you to friends, or maybe even his family.
  

• may ask you to hang out with him and his friend or alone just as "friends".

• remembers your name and tiny details about conversations you've had.

• makes every effort to contact you even to say "Hi".

• Asks you out on a date.

When a guy likes a girl unless he's really shy (that's maybe 2% of the male population) he will make every effort to get a hold of you. When a guy likes you he does everything in his power to make sure you know even if it isn't as overt as asking you out. If a guy is talking to you everyday for no apparent reason he more than likely has a crush on you, guys don't talk to chicks they don't like and that's a fact, I'll bet money on that. If you're not his boss, sister, cousin, mother and he's talking to you exhibiting all the above signs, I would say it's to assume he likes you and you can either take the lead and ask him out or wait for him to do it. Simply men know what they want and if it's you, he'll let you know.

My Conversation with Death

A few days ago I had the pleasure of speaking to a woman who had faced death but was literally able to run from it. I wanted to post on it a few days ago but with the death of Heath Ledger and uncertain times prompted me to share a snippet of what this woman told me.

The woman whom I spoke with suffered a heart attack a few months ago, she described for me what she experienced:

She wasn't feeling well for two days but she thought it was gas pains but all of a sudden her heart valves constricted and she called "911", after she was wheeled into the ambulance she became unresponsive for 2.5 minutes. She told me that a white cloud opened up over the stretcher and she saw herself walking towards an opening in the cloud--that's when she realized she was about to die and she said to herself "I don't want to die" that's when she began to fight and run away from the cloud. She came back to life. I wanted to pry some more information from her but her sister actually died the night before of a heart attack and she told me since her brush with death she knew it was her sister's time to go.

You always hear these stories about people seeing a bright light and family members you never believe it until someone you know tells you such a thing.